The Mathematics of Marriage: 10 steps to getting through the ‘emotional’ divorce

Mariyon Slany

There are many questions after you and your love partner have made the decision to separate. 

Part of the battle is working out how you feel about it all, and being clear to your partner about how you feel so that you are consistent.


There are 10 steps to getting through the ‘emotional’ divorce.

  1. Why did it happen to me?
  2. How to get over feeling totally rejected?.... Or…am I guilty?
  3. How to communicate with my ex. Is that really me doing all the screaming and bad behaviour… ☹
  4. Discovering what it means to feel connected to someone – what happened to your values.
  5. Family, friends, and the kids… what to say?
  6. Just move on and forget. Or… do I need to think a bit about my patterns?
  7. What I need to know to not do it again.
  8. Losing Friends.
  9. Being single again – good, bad or just different.
  10. Starting Anew.

Mariyon as your divorce recovery therapist will work through these 10 stages in 10 structured sessions for a set fee.  She is also available on the phone to answer questions or can assist by giving input in regards to communication in Mediation processes as she is also a trained Mediator.


If you’re mourning a friend, feeling lost in the aftermath of a big decision or just simply not sure what you're feeling, is there someone in your corner? A good listener, Mariyon will quickly understand the nuances and work with you to strengthen your sense of being whole again. Men and women are welcome.


Feel free to call Mariyon on 0430 183 893 for a preliminary chat and see if she can help.

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