How can I benefit from a therapist during a divorce or separation?

A divorce recovery therapist can help in that time after you have decided to separate or divorce. They can help you with planning what to say in phone calls or help you in preparation for meetings with your ex or with lawyers. Basically they can help guide you and help identify the huge amount of conflicting emotions you may be feeling. 

Mariyon has experienced divorce herself so has a personal understanding of the range of emotions including betrayal, anger and frustration. She has helped people during education courses for nearly 10 years, so has a strong understanding of the emotional processes that people go through during separation and is not only empathetic but clear in helping you establish new boundaries. Most divorces happen within the first 7 years of marriage and are most often initiated by one person which means the other person feels blindside.

Reasons for divorce include:

• Infidelity
• Lack of intimacy
• Too much arguing
• Substance abuse
• Lack of commitment and/or emotional withdrawal
• Undiagnosed mental health conditions
• Financial stress, and of course, a sense of 'falling out of love'.

When a marriage or relationship has experienced an affair - with 70% of marriages going through that (by some estimates) - the overwhelming anger and grief can feel incapicitating.   The impact on individuals around loss of trust and betrayal is a large part of the emotional turmoil that separating couples experience, and professional support and the sense of having someone in your corner is vital.